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What YOU Really Want: Gifts for Stay at Home Moms

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What YOU Really Want: Gifts for Stay at Home Moms

Being a stay at home mom, you don’t get to think much about what you want.

You’re too busy worry about the wants and needs of everyone else in your family; your kids, pets, husband, parents. Basically, anyone you’re related to or see often enough to care for.

Oh, you’re on the list somewhere, way at the bottom. That’s why it’s so difficult for you to come up with what you want whenever anyone asks you.

I get it.

It’s hard to think about your own wants or needs when you’re so preoccupied thinking about others.

That’s why I’ve created the list below with some things us stay at home moms could really appreciate in our non-self-centered lives. From items that we need, things that you could certainly use but may not have thought of, to things that you actually want and will enjoy!

Just in case you do need some ideas for you kids, as well:
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Gifts for Stay at Home Moms

Items we NEED: Gifts for Stay at Home Moms

You know that there are things you need that you just can’t think of when asked, like new socks because all of yours have holes in them. But, the ideas below are a little more unique than just socks!

(But, in all honesty, if all your socks have holes in them, just get them for yourself already. This is your sign if you needed one. I know I’m due for some new socks!)

Slippers

Ok, so you don’t have to ask for these unicorn slippers. But, slippers are very useful as a stay at home mom. We’re on our feet more often than others think we are; with hard wood floors, it can be rough on our feet and slippers are advised.


 

A Nice Coffee Mug

I love this coffee mug! If only it were true; my toddler is quite strong, my coffee can’t even begin to compete. I still love the coffee mug my mom got for me right after I had my first daughter. It said “Mommy’s Sippy Cup”. I haven’t been able to find it online anywhere, but it was one of the taller travel mugs; perfect for moms who like to enjoy their coffee.

I just have one suggestion, especially for any new stay at home moms out there, make sure the coffee mug you ask for is microwave safe. This is vital, as half the life of your mug, it’ll be sitting in the microwave waiting to be heated up…again. (The one above is microwave safe, I already checked!)


 

Things Use Could Use and Appreciate: Gifts for Stay at Home Moms

One step up from asking for what you need, is asking for things that you can appreciate more and could use for yourself! Not just new slippers because yours got worn out.

An ‘I will watch the kids for a few hours’ Gift Card

What a great idea! Just have whoever wants to get you a gift make you a ‘gift card’ that gives you a number of free hours that they will watch your kids. This gift doesn’t cost any money for the person giving it, simply time. And, I can’t think of a single woman I know, who’s a mom, who will deny the chance to get a break, or time to themselves for a few hours, or even a single hour!

Living Well Planner

Maybe it’s just me, but I need a planner; a nice one, too. Ever since I got my first one in middle school, I was addicted to staying organized with a planner. Finding the right planner can be difficult, if you haven’t already found one you’re in love with. The Living Well Planner is perfect. It has a place to plan each day (by the hour), a place to meal plan, and a place to set goals for yourself. It also has a section for you to budget, but I use my own budget sheets, which are a bit simpler and more customizable to use.

 

Things YOU Actually Want: Gifts for Stay at Home Moms

Then, there’s the things that you actually want, not ‘want’ because you ‘need’ them. Unless, you haven’t gone shopping since before you had your first child, or you’ve gone shopping, but it’s never for you. If that’s the case, then you really need the gifts below, don’t be afraid to ask for them!

Gift Cards

Ask for a gift card for a store where YOU can buy YOURSELF something, whether it be clothes or something else you enjoy. Just make sure you don’t ask for a generic gift card, like for Walmart, where you’ll be tempted to buy groceries or stuff for your kids with.

This is supposed to be a gift for you, not your fridge or your kids. Don’t worry, your kids will get enough presents over the Holidays, and if they’re anything like my girls, they really don’t need any more toys, anyways.

Yoga Pants

Alright, maybe this is just me again, but I like wearing yoga pants; they’re better than sweat pants because it’s completely acceptable to go pick your kids up from school in them. Plus, they’re comfy, and no one can tell that you didn’t just come from working out! The pair above even has a hidden pocket, perfect for holding keys while carrying a tantrum throwing 2 year old while picking up your older child. Oh, wait, maybe that’s just me…

Something for a favorite hobby

Whatever you favorite hobby is, I’m sure there’s something that you’d love to have for it, but maybe haven’t thought of yet. Whether you like to read and just want a few new books, like to cook and need something new or unique for the kitchen, or maybe you’re like me and blog and would prefer something for that, like this for taking photos.

Whatever you ask for this year, just make sure it’s actually for YOU and something YOU would enjoy.

As moms, we tend to ask for things that our children want or to make our children or family happy. Which isn’t bad, it’s just we deserve to get something just for us. Not for us to make our family food, unless of course baking or cooking is a passion of yours.

And, of course, this Holiday season and gift ideas above are not all about being selfish and only worrying about yourself; you’re a mom, you can’t even if you wanted to. But, you deserve to feel special, just like everyone else that you buy gifts for. Simply think like a kid and think of what you would want for Christmas; ask for it, and believe in the magic of Christmas this year!

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Have you been thinking about working from home with kids, but unsure if it'd be worth it? Find out some of the top benefits of being a work at home mom; from earning extra cash to sticking to a schedule or routines with your kids (and yourself). Love your life, grow your own business, and get to stay home with you kids; who wouldn't want that!

The Top 10 Benefits of Working From Home with Kids

Being a stay at home mom opens up all sorts of opportunities. While your child naps, or goes to school, or one naps and the other is in school, you get to choose what you want to do with the extra time.

And, no, I don’t mean simply what you want to cook or should be cleaning. I’m talking about following your passions, or earning extra money – without even leaving the comfort of your own home!

Wouldn’t that be amazing!? To work from home, from your computer or your phone?

Choose your own hours, set your own schedule; all while doing what you want, when you want!

Care for your little ones and make a little extra money, or a lot extra, with doing something you actually love!

It may seem too good to be true, huh? Well, with the right resources and some hard work, you could make it happen!

I know, I know, it’s not always that easy.

My 2 year old is trying to give up her naps, too. And, I get up at 3am every morning to write or work on my blog in some way; but it’s totally worth it, even though I’m not really making much money, yet! But, there’s always the possibility of making money, and you don’t even need a blog to do so; it takes awhile to make money blogging, unlike other work at home opportunities. I just love having my own website and writing!

And, let me tell ya why you should!!!

Reason #1

Be Your Own Boss

Sure, with being a stay at home mom you don’t necessarily have a boss. Like, it might feel like your kids may try to boss you around, but they’re just trying to tell you their needs. Eventually, they will grow up; probably sooner than you’d like!

And, when that time comes, you may feel the pressure to start making some money yourself. Whether it’s internal pressure, or a little pressure from your spouse. Even if it’s just so you’re not always alone all day, to give you something purposeful to do, or to help you feel more accomplished and productive during your day.

Believe me, you are meant for more than just changing diapers, cooking, and cleaning. And, you don’t need a boss to tell you what to do either! You can be your own boss when you work from the comfort of your own home!

Or, who knows, you may grow a large work at home business and be the boss of others, even before your kids start school!

Reason #2 

Follow Your Passions

Being a full time mom, whether we work or stay at home (I’ve done both after having children); we tend to lose ourselves a little, and that includes losing some of our passions in life. With long days, and longer nights with babies; it can be hard to think of anything else. Anything for ourselves just goes right out the window.

This can come from not having time or from mom-guilt. We no longer feel like what we want to do, or what we’re passionate about is important enough to pursue.

Choosing to work from home, and online, can help you follow your passions in life, and give you a reason to focus on what you want, again! This will depend a little bit on what your passions are, but there are almost limitless possibilities when it comes from working from home!

If you love to write, you can freelance write, or create a blog and write what you want. Or, write that book you’ve always dreamed of writing.

Are you good with photoshop or taking pictures? Other people online will actually pay you to use those skills! Amazing, isn’t it?

And, if you’re only able to work 2 hours a day, or 3 hours every other day; you can still make it work!

It can be hard to believe that you can do something you love and get paid for it. But, guess what, other people are already doing it! And, there’s plenty of room for more!

The Top 10 Benefits of Working From Home with Kids

Reason #3 

It Will Make You Feel More Important

Let’s face it, being a stay at home mom isn’t that glamorous. And, may not feel like you’re doing important work.

Hard work; yes.

Feels important; not that much.

But, it truly is important what you’re doing!

You are raising the next generation. That generation, however, needs to nap during the day when little, to not be miserable! If they refuse their nap, they still need more sleep than you do, so you can take advantage of that!

What better to do during naps than make yourself feel important, and feel like you’re contributing to the household income, or contribute to bettering the world in some way. There’s a reason they say no one can be an island! And, it’s not that you’re not already doing enough and need to do more. But personally, as a millennial mom, I feel like I need to do it all to make what I’m doing feel important enough to me! Are you the same way?

Reason #4 

Connect with Other Adults

I’ve only been a stay at home mom for a little over a year now, my girls are 2 and 5 years old. And, if I don’t work on my blog and connect with others on a regular basis, then I start to lose it a little.

It gets lonely sometimes when the only company you have most days are too young to even go to school, or have a full conversation!

Working from home will help even the most introverted of people make connections with other adults to stay sane. Bonus points for connecting with other work at home mom’s who have the same struggles as you!

Reason #5 

Gives You a Reason to Get Dressed in the Morning (other than taking kids to school)

I don’t know about you, but when I became a stay at home, I thought of it as an awesome excuse to stay in pj’s all day long!

Bad idea!!!

We associate pj’s with sleep, being in bed, or relaxing. That is the exact opposite of what you need when you stay home with kids. They have a ton of energy, and being too relaxed will not give you the energy you need to keep up with them.

Ever since I started taking working from home seriously, and actually getting dressed in the morning; I haven’t only been able to get more work done everyday, but I’ve also been able to keep the house clean with more ease, and I’ve been less stressed!!!

Wearing real clothes is like magic for staying productive during the day, which brings me to my next point!

Reason #6 

Helps You Stay Productive

Sometimes we just don’t want to do anything, like when we stay in our pj’s all day. This is not healthy, for our minds or our bodies.

Starting a work from home career, or even working a few hours each week, will help you get your butt moving again and be productive.

And, it feels soo much better to be productive than to be lazy! It’s just like if you’re used to lounging around all day, and then start working out everyday; you start to feel better, amazing even, and then you start to crave the exercise everyday!

Same concept with being productive and challenging your brain!

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Reason #7 

It Will Force You to Keep Learning and Using that Beautiful Brain of Yours

If anyone has ever told you that you can work from home and you don’t need to learn anything new; don’t believe them.

And, don’t let this scare you away either! There is so much that I have learned in the past two years while blogging, it’s astounding. I didn’t even know there was so much to know about blogging, or social media, or even just writing!

Learning new skills and theories will help keep your brain stay young and functioning longer. So, challenge yourself and keep learning all your life; you deserve to!

Working from home can help you do this, whether it’s investing in a new course to learn something new, or reading more books, or watching youtube videos to learn a technical skill online!

Reason #8 

Make a Difference in Other’s Lives

The amazing thing about working from home is that you can actually make a difference in someone else’s life; maybe even more so than working outside the home. I guess it depends on where you would work, or what you would do.

When I write on my blog; I write to help out other moms who may be struggling through the same things I am, or things I once struggled with. Wouldn’t it be awesome to know that what you do online could help others, or actually matter!?!

The Top 10 Benefits of Working From Home with Kids

Reason #9 

Make Use of What You Already Know (You have to use it so you don’t lose it!)

If you’re like me, and have a fancy college degree (that you’ve never used before), this could be your chance to prove it’s use!

Or, even if you don’t have a college degree, you have a life full of experiences, and you have children! The experiences you go through in life are enough to help others. Whether it’s helping others do what you have done, to make life easier or better; or, by helping them avoid the mistakes you’ve made.

You have knowledge inside of you, and it’s trying to get out! Help it and help others by sharing it with them!

Reason #10 

It Will Force You and Your Children to stick to a Daily Schedule

This is a good thing! Daily schedules help us and our children thrive. And, with all the hard work you’ll need to do when working from home, you’ll need specific times to get it all done!

A daily schedule is something I’ve personally been working on all year to perfect. But, guess what, it doesn’t need to be perfect. (I should be telling myself this!) As long as you know what you do and when, and you get to most of the tasks on your to do list; you’ll be set!

If you want to learn more about how you and your child can benefit from a daily schedule, read my post about it here!

So, why not give working from home and earning extra income, and staying sane by connecting with other adults, a more serious thought. Get the bundle and start learning more about the how to’s, and not just the why.

So, do it for yourself, or do it for your family!

Have you been thinking about working from home with kids, but unsure if it'd be worth it? Find out some of the top benefits of being a work at home mom; from earning extra cash to sticking to a schedule or routines with your kids (and yourself). Love your life, grow your own business, and get to stay home with you kids; who wouldn't want that!

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10 Nutribullet Benefits for Moms

Looking for new ways to raise healthy kids and be an awesome mom? Check out 10 nutribullet benefits to help with your childrens health, provide them with the nutrition they need, and make green smoothies for them and yourself to increase your energy!!

10 Nutribullet Benefits for Moms

Have you ever wanted to be healthier, but don’t know where to start?

Or, know that as a mom, you probably should start caring about your own health, now that you’re responsible for another human beings health, as well?

Well, what if I told you that it doesn’t have to be hard or take an hour of prep work to start being healthier, for yourself and child(ren)!?!

What if I told you that you can add at least 3 more fruits and veggies, along with amazing (and cheap) super foods, into your diet in about 5 minutes a day?

And, what if, the same small appliance that can help you do that can also grind oats into flour, for healthier desserts like cookies and muffins, and make home made baby food and baby cereal. No more buying baby food at one or two dollars a serving! No serving your toddler, or older child, baked goods with nutrient lacking white, or all purpose, flour!

As a mom, I think we could all appreciate something that allows us to provide healthier food to ourselves and our children, while saving money and possibly even time! A nutribullet can do all of that for us, plus more!

Why I Honestly Love it SO Much

I got my nutribullet over four years ago as a Christmas present!

I had been doing my research and comparing it with other products similar to it, and I so hoped that someone in my family would be awesome enough to get it for me. (At the time it was more expensive than it is today and my husband was laid off from his job right before Christmas that year.) I was so thankful that his grandma bought for me, it’s helped me out in so many ways since then!

I’m much healthier because of it, and others see me as much healthier, as well.

Ask anyone I’ve worked with when I worked outside the home! People saw me as super healthy, especially when they saw me drinking something green in the break room.

I was like the health guru, wherever I worked, or at least that’s how it made me feel!

I have used this small machine almost everyday since I’ve gotten it, over 4 years ago, and there is no sign that it’s going to break down anytime soon! If I don’t use it to make a nutriblast (the healthy smoothies it creates by pulverizing fruits and veggies), then I use it for something else, like grinding oats for flour, or flaxseeds to make flax eggs.

Ok, ok, I may be a bit of a health nut. But, is that really a bad thing to be, as a mom?

strawberry pineapple smoothie recipe
Photo from stresslessbehealthy.com

Let’s get onto those 10 Nutribullet Benefits for Moms!

Nutribullet Benefits #1. It’s fast

On average, it takes about 20 seconds to make a nutriblast.

It may take 10 to 20 seconds longer to grind oats for flour.

But, with the power this product has, it doesn’t take long to get the consistency you are looking for, no matter what you grind or blend!

Nutribullet Benefits #2. It’s Safe

The nutribullet is safe to use, not only for you as an adult, but also for kids.

My 5 year old helps me use this all the time, she actually gets upset when I don’t let her help, because she thinks it’s so much fun to use!

The part with the blade screws onto the cup and can be difficult for a child, or yourself, to get off quickly so you don’t have to worry about chopping off a finger with a blade before it stops blending, like with a regular blender. And, when you’re using it, the cup can lock into place on the base.

This way you can lock it onto the base and let your little one hold onto it, making them think they’re doing it all by themselves; just help them, or unlock it, when they’re done!

Note: You must supervise little ones with the nutribullet to ensure safety. Do not let them use it all by themselves, it could potentially be dangerous.

Nutribullet Benefits #3. Everyone around you will envy you for your good nutrition

No joke on this one. I used to work at call centers and I’d always bring a nutriblast to work to drink.

I would always get so many comments when drinking it. From disgust because it was green, to people who wish they had the will power to eat as healthy as I do, and not just buy something from the vending machine!

So, if you want to start being thought of as a health guru where you work, or just want to be seen as healthy; start bringing and drinking these at work!

Some people have even seen weight loss after starting to use the nutribullet. I never used it as a weight loss aid, but anything that will help you eat more fruits and veggies, and less junk, is always going to have the potential to help you lose weight!

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Photo from stresslessbehealthy.com

Nutribullet Benefits #4. Show your kids how delicious it is to be healthy!

As moms, we want our kids to be healthy, but we don’t want to have to shove veggies down their throats. So, let’s meet them in the middle and make them milkshakes and ice cream!

Kids love desserts, and we love for them to eat what’s good for them. The nutribullet makes it possible for both of us to get our ways! If you need suggestions on how to make delicious desserts for your kids using the nutribullet; check out this post!! Or, use my go to smoothie recipe from below!

Add the healthiest ingredients into your kids favorite desserts, without them even knowing!

Nutribullet Benefits #5. Teach your kids how EASY it is to be healthy!

Using a nutribullet is so easy, a kid can use it; so let them.

(Make sure you supervise, though, you know your child better than I do and whether they will need help or not. Maybe, pretend to let them help…)

There’s no better way to teach a child to be healthy than to be a good example and let them experiment with food themselves. They are much more likely to try eating something healthy if they are the ones who made it!

So, let them see you use your nutribullet and drink your nutriblasts on a daily basis. If they’re anything like my girls, you won’t be able to finish it without sharing!

Pretty soon they’ll be asking for their own and begging you if they can help make it!



Nutribullet Benefits #6. It Pulverizes ingredients, making it easier to digest

The nutribullet isn’t just a blender, it’s an extractor!

It extracts the nutrients from the fruits, veggies, and other healthy ingredients you put into it; making them more easily digested by our bodies. Which in turn provides us with more health benefits than a regular blender ever could!

This makes nutriblasts the perfect revitalizing drink for when you start to feel low on energy or simply not feel at your best. It literally takes only about 5 minutes for me to start feeling better after starting to drink a nutriblast! (More specifically, the recipe above!)

Nutribullet Benefits #7. It Can Replace multiple Small Kitchen Appliances to save you valuable space!

So far, I’ve replaced 3 of my small kitchen appliances with the nutribullet!

  1. a blender
  2. coffee grinder
  3. and baby bullet

It saves me space in my small kitchen by having multiple functions, and it saves me money and frustration by not having to deal with blenders that wear out, and replacing a baby bullet that fully gave out within a year! This appliance is still going strong after 4 years of everyday use!

Nutribullet Benefits #8. It comes with a Healthy Recipe Book

The recipe book isn’t just full of nutriblast recipes, it has information about how to eat healthy, and basically a meal plan to help you eat better!

There’s a recipe for a wrap with quinoa in it, that’s just amazing!

It’s focused on real foods, not processed or chemically laden foods like weight loss companies.

With the nutribullet, it’s all about health and getting the most out of real food that you can!

Just like my free recipe ebook that’s mother and child approved; get my recipe ebook here!

Nutribullet Benefits #9. Helps save food, and time!

If you’re sick of buying produce because you’re trying to be healthy, and then having it all go to waste, then you need this!

First off, you could use that produce in your nutriblasts to actually be healthy.

It only takes about 5 minutes to prep, make one, and clean up.

Secondly, you could simply buy frozen fruit and veggies to make nutriblasts; no more wasting money on fresh produce that’ll go bad before you even wash or cut it up!

And, third; if you notice you have produce about to go bad in your fridge, quickly extract all the nutrients, pour it into an ice cube tray and save it for making nutriblasts in the future!

(I do this with avocados when they’re about to go bad; they’re too expensive to got to waste!)

Nutribullet Benefits #10. Easy to Clean

We all know how important it is to clean our kitchen appliances after using them, even if they’re a pain in the butt to clean (I’m looking at you, juicer).

But, with the nutribullet, it’s super quick and easy.

After using it, (don’t forget to take the rubber piece out of the part with the blade) wash in hot soapy water.

There’s no hard parts to get to, or special cleaning tool you need, and you don’t have to worry about hurting yourself cleaning it!

If you do feel like you need something special to get under and in between the blades, a bottle brush with the nipple cleaning attachment works perfectly! (Or, a toothpick.)

Or, you could always do it the lazy way and add warm water and soap in the nutribullet and blend it like you would a nutriblast!

But, I prefer to wash the parts in the sink (not the motor part, though, that’ll probably ruin it; just wipe that part down if it gets dirty).

Green Smoothie Bowl Recipe
Photo from stresslessbehealthy.com

Why I Personally Recommend It

This little machine has done me wonders over the past four years.

When I first started working full time after I gave birth to my oldest daughter, coffee was not enough to give me the energy I needed through out the day.

So, I tried a little experiment and brought a nutriblast to work to sip on instead of coffee!

I can’t even begin to tell you the amount of energy I had to stay awake during the training and the tedious everyday tasks at my job; it was amazing!

Even now, staying home with my two girls, if I start to feel faint, or just sick or weak; I make myself a nutriblast, sit down on the couch, and start drinking it. Within 5 to 10 minutes after I start drinking it; I feel better!

I have my energy back and I’m ready to take on the rest of the day!

My girls tend to get a few sips of it, too. I can never have one all to myself!

So, if you’re serious about being a healthy mom with energy to get through each and every day, and providing your little ones with healthy baked goods, home made baby food, or delicious (and healthy) ‘milkshakes’, then I’d highly recommend this product!

 

Looking for new ways to raise healthy kids and be an awesome mom? Check out 10 nutribullet benefits to help with your childrens health, provide them with the nutrition they need, and make green smoothies for them and yourself to increase your energy!!

Know anyone researching the Nutribullet, or trying to be healthy; share this honest nutribullet review with them!

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5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Have Messy House Guilt

Have you ever had just one of those days; you know, where your patience with your children is truly tested?

When it feels like every time you blink, there’s another mess to clean up or child who needs your undivided attention.

And, don’t you dare turn your back, not even for a second, or your children will start wrestling over a toy. (I have girls, and they do this.)

Forget about even doing the basic chores you attempt to get done everyday, like dishes and laundry, there’s boo-boo’s to kiss and putting the toddler down for a nap to attempt. HAHA…..nope, no nap today.

Yep, this stay at home mom gig isn’t the easiest thing in the world. There’s ‘those’ days. Nothing get’s done, and the house looks like a tornado went through it.

But, guess what?

These days will happen, and because you’re a mom, you’ll get through them. Hopefully they won’t come too often, but we’ve got this. And, here are 5 reasons why I’m thankful for days like these and why you shouldn’t feel guilty about a messy house.

1. Your Children are Fed and Alive

Your kids are alive and fed, well, mostly fed…..

Some of the food is over there on the floor…..

some may be on the wall across the room……

and there might be some peanut butter on the curtains…*cringe*.

But, the kids aren’t acting like they’re hungry, so, good enough.

If you manage to simply get some food into your children on days like these, then you’ve pretty much mastered motherhood.

And, you can’t get the kids fed without having to cook, or at least having some messy dishes in the kitchen. So, don’t mind the mess, be thankful they got to eat!

2. Unconditional Love

Sure, they may not show it, but they do love you. Even when they’re yelling at the top of their lungs that they hate you and want to be alone, or for you to leave them alone; they still love you.

Eventually, the strong feelings they are experiencing will fade and they’ll melt. (That’s what my five year old and I call it when this happens and she comes back to me for hugs, kisses, to apologize to me, and tell me how much she loves me.)

Sometimes, on days like ‘these’ where your patience is being tested; it’s better to value some quality time with your kids, than playing the perfect house keeper.

They need you, and you know it’s good for both your’s and your children’s sanity to just sit in their room and play with them. Even if it means the house stays a disaster for little longer.

So, don’t feel guilty about a messy house.

3. Early Bedtime, Anyone?

Yes, on days like ‘these’, where everything seems to be going wrong, you can’t keep up with your home, and your children are hanging all over you (or fighting behind your back); an early bedtime is a likely (well-deserved) ending.

Your toddler didn’t nap; your older child wouldn’t leave them alone long enough to let them fall asleep. Your older child got up too early and starting to get cranky. You somehow managed to get your kids clean and in pj’s by 6:15pm and by 6:30pm the little one is out and 15 minutes later the older one is being asked to get tucked in to bed.

(Wait a minute, that’s my queue to go tuck her in….)

But, not all of ‘these’ days will end with a well-deserved early bedtime for the kids.

Nope, some of ‘these’ days won’t end til the morning and we’ll be pulling out our hair (if there’s any left after the kids got to it).

And, with our luck, it’ll probably be just one child keeping us up all night, and by the time they finally pass out and the morning comes; the other one will be up and ready to take on the day….

This is when you’ll be hoping Starbucks delivers. (Unfortunately, as far as I know, they don’t.)

4. The TV Stayed Off All Day

On days like ‘these’, where you can’t even hear yourself think and there’s toys everywhere (like those legos you’re just about to step on…watch out); be thankful!

A messy house, with toys sprawled all through out, means that your children didn’t spend the day acting like zombies in front of the tv. No flashing bright colors of kids shows shining in their eyes.

Instead, their eyes are shining with excitement for their next imaginative adventure!

You know all their toys, the ones EVERYWHERE, well, be glad that they’re being played with! So many kids now-a-days have toys that never get played with because they’re too busy with screens in their faces.

(By the way, my daughter apparently opened up a cupcake shop in her room; the ‘cupcakes’ are balls from a ball pit and it’s open 24/7. They’re also vegan for her mommy!)

So, don’t feel guilty about a messy house.

5. You’re Creating Memories and a Better Future

Whether it’s teaching your children to talk, build with blocks, writing their own stories, or teaching them math; you’re helping them form fond memories that they’ll hold onto forever. You’re teaching them a skill that they’ll use for the rest of their lives.

You’re making an impact in their life; not because your kitchen is spotless, but because you’re spending your time with them, instead.

Or, maybe you went back to school to get a better job, so that they can start going to a dance or karate class.

Maybe you’re starting your own business; to earn a little more to pay off the student debt you racked up before your kids were born.

Yes, even us stay at home moms get too busy with our work to keep a house spotless. Being a stay at home mom does not mean our time is unlimited, or that we can’t make money to better our childrens lives. We have a lot on our plates, and on ‘these’ days, having a messy house is perfectly alright.

Did your mom feel guilty about a messy house?

Can you remember back to when you were a child? Did your mom ever feel guilty about a messy home? Should they have?

I know my mom should never have felt guilty about a messy house. She ran a home daycare and at times there were 10 kids there, 3 to 4 toddlers at a time….

She even had a quote hanging on a small plaque in the hallway that said “Apology. Although you’ll find our house a mess. Come in- sit down- converse. It doesn’t always look like this: Some days it’s even worse.

Remember that.

Remember that you have gone through days like ‘these’ and that a messy house is a blessing of being a good mom and having children who love and rely on you.

Never feel guilty about a messy house.

Share with a mom who needs to hear this! And, pin it on Pinterest so you can come back to it when needed.

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Help Your Child Have the Best First Day of School Ever!

It’s important for your child to have the best first day of school that they can; not only for them, but for you, too.

It sets the tone for the rest of the year. So it’s important to do a few key things on the first day of school to help things go smoothly.

You can grab a pdf checklist for these things here. (And, honestly, you don’t even have to print out the checklist if you don’t want to, it was created so you can click on the checkbox next to an item and a check mark will pop up!)

But, if you want a more in depth explanation of the key things to do, or remind your child to do on the first day of school, then keep reading!

And, if this is your childs first year of school, check out this ultimate guide for preparing your child for Kindergarten.

Set Everything Ready to Go the Day Before the First Day of School

If you’re not a planner, or like to prepare for things ahead of time, it’s time to basically suck it up and just do it for your child.

The tasks you’ll want to complete may differ depending on a few things, but you’ll want to, at the very least, accomplish these tasks the day before school:

  • pick out clothes (and hairstyle for girls, possibly boys, too)
  • get your child excited for their first day of school (talk about it)
  • set expectations for morning, afterschool, and night time routines (let them know about these)
  • help them visualize an awesome first day of school (talk it through)
  • make sure their backpack is packed and ready to go
  • pack as much of their lunch as possible
  • set up for breakfast before you go to sleep

This is not an exhaustive list, depending on your child there may be more you need to add to this to help you child have the best first day of school ever. But, if you at least do the things on this list, then you’re headed in the right direction and you child may even thank you in the future for preparing ahead of time.

Plus, some of these small tasks, like laying out clothes before bed, having routines, and visualizing and awesome day; these can be used through out their entire lives to help them succeed, so the earlier they start these habits, the better!

Morning Routine

In a perfect world, you will have established a morning routine for yourself and child before the school year begins.

Honestly, in my own home, we started implementing a morning routine that resembles the one my daughter will use during the school year, a month before school starts. That way there’s less ‘new’ she will need to get used to when school starts.

Make Your Child a Healthy and Filling Breakfast

Depending on your child, they may not have a lot of time in the morning to get ready for school.

So, start them off on the right track, with a healthy and filling breakfast. It doesn’t need to be a difficult or fancy breakfast, and you could even make breakfast the day before and simply heat it up and give it to them in the morning.

My go to’s for a healthy breakfast are:

There are certainly more options! Just be sure to include some protein, fruit, and possibly fiber; whether it’s in the main thing they eat for breakfast, or their drink (like milk/soymilk).

If they’re used to being home all day and eating whenever they’re hungry, this may be a big change for them; having to go longer periods of time without eating. It’s important they eat a filling breakfast so they’re not hungry through out the day.

*Hint – have them eat breakfast in their pj’s to avoid them getting their clothes for school dirty.

Brush Teeth

When they’re done with breakfast they should go brush their teeth right away. This way they don’t forget and go to school without brushing teeth.

Plus, they should brush their teeth before they get dressed to avoid getting toothpaste on their clothes for the day. Toothpaste isn’t the easiest thing to get out of clothes in a hurry.

Get dressed (hair)

Next, have them get dressed in the clothes that were picked out the night before.

Our hope is that they don’t cry over this and hate what was picked out. My daughters 5, and even if she’s the one who picked out her outfit, she may hate it the next day and not want to wear it.

Maybe our kids will be sleepy enough where they just don’t care, and then or course, be completely awake by the time they get to school.

Once they’re dressed, do their hair if they need help with it.

Do not attempt their hair before they’re dressed or you would’ve just wasted your time.

Pack a Super Special Lunch

Hopefully, most of their lunch is already packed and ready to go.

Finish it up, if it isn’t, and then put it near the door so it’s not forgotten; that would ensure a bad first day of school. No one wants to forget their lunch!

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Take Photos

Once your child is all ready for school; you’ll want to take pictures of them to remember this day.

Some people have their kids hold signs in these pictures; I personally won’t. There’s no need to.

And, knowing my oldest daughter, she’ll turn this simple picture into a photo shoot and start posing; that’s just how she is. (She’s even gotten her 2 year old sister posing like a ‘cool girl’ for pictures now, too)

Take Them

If it’s possible to drive, or walk, your child to school for the first day of school, do so. It’ll help this day be more special for them.

If you’re not able to take them to school, that’s alright, too. It’s not going to devastate them if you can’t. Unless, of course, you told them you would.

Either way, simply let them know what’s going on and what they should expect the first day of school. Children like to know what’s going on, too.

And, once they’re at school, you’re not in control anymore. Which I know will be hard for some of you.

Make sure you tell them you love them and wish them a good day!

After School Routine

An after school routine can be almost as important as a morning routine. It helps ease the transition from school to being home again.

This time of day can often be chaotic because of the transition; a routine, that both you and your child are aware of, it key to avoid that chaos and have everything go just a little more smooth.

Pick them up

If possible, pick your child up from school, just as you dropped them off.

Again, if you’re not able to, it’s no the end of the world. You do what you do. If you work and they have to go to a sitters, that’s fine. Just give them realistic expectations and let them know what is to come for after school.

Ask Them How Their Day Went

Once you see them when they finished their day of school; ask them how it went.

What did they learn?

Did they make any new friends?

How did they like their new teacher and how the day went?

There are many questions you could ask them about their first day of school; try not to ask them too many as to overwhelm them.

Make Them an After School Snack

An after school snack is almost as important as breakfast.

But, instead of fueling them to take on the day; this snack will be replenishing them from their day at school.

If you are at a loss of what to give them, try to avoid the heavily processed snack foods that contain all sorts of preservatives and ingredients you can’t pronounce. Instead, check out this list of healthy and fun after school snacks to give your kids!

But, basically, some type of fruit or veggie and fat or protein should do just fine. Like an apple with peanut butter, or something like that.

Find out if they have homework

Make sure you ask your child if they have any homework.

Or, if you have any homework to do, I honestly don’t remember a year in school when I was little where I had homework the first day of school, but teachers would always give paperwork for parents to fill out.

So, make sure you ask!

Let them relax, play, be a kid

Your child was just at school for about 6 hours, and depending on their age, they may have been able to play at school. But, they probably weren’t able to relax very much.

Let them just chill out for an hour or so after school. They need some down time like we do sometimes.

School can be exhausting, especially in the beginning of the year. Who knows, they may even take a nap after school for the first few days!

Homework Time

If they brought homework home for you, make sure you get it done and don’t put it off til later.

Doing it while they relax, and before you have to make dinner, would be ideal.

And, if they have any homework they have to do, help make sure they complete it before dinner, as well.

Prepare for the Next Day

After dinner it’ll be time to prepare for the next day of school…and start this whole thing all over again.

  • Pick out clothes (and hairstyle)
  • pack lunch
  • pack bag and place near door
  • bed time routine
  • set everything up for breakfast.

You’ll get to repeat this so often this year, it’ll become habit and you’ll eventually not even think about what you have to do; you’ll just do it.

Don’t forget to be excited for your child to start school, or at least act like it, to encourage them to enjoy school.

The first day of school will set the tone for the rest of the year, and it’s important to have a good first impression. But, children are also very forgiving, at least while their young; so if you mess up, it won’t be the end of the world.

Just do your best to make everything go smoothly and to make your childs first day of school be awesome. Your child will be able to see the effort your put into it, and that’s what counts.

Good luck!

Don’t forget to grab this checklist so you can check these things off as you go!

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7 Tips to Spend More Quality Time with Your Child

How often do we, as moms, get so busy and wrapped up in life that we may accidentally forget to spend some quality time with our kids?

I’m going to guess that you may feel a little bit of mom guilt right about now, and that’s alright. It’s a reminder that you have kids and love them and want the best for them. And, realizing that you’ve been too busy to feel like the best mom ever, doesn’t mean that you aren’t.

Sometimes we just need the reminder to slow down a little in life and remember why we had our kids to begin with. And no, it wasn’t to be the referee when our little ones fight, or feel like we’re a taxi driver when they’re teenagers and can’t drive yet.

And, I’m sure your reason may slightly differ than mine and everyone elses. But, at some point we do get the gentle reminder, usually through mom guilt, that we need to start spending some more quality time with our children.

In case you’re unsure how to squeeze this into your already hectic day, I’ve gathered seven pretty simple ideas that you could start implementing in your everyday life, right now!

I’ve gathered even more ideas and activities to do with your children based on their age (ages 3 to 12) in a printable available in my printable library! If you need ideas for toddlers, check out this post from thinkbaby.org for 10 fun activities to do with toddlers.

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Include yourself in their bedtime routine

One easy way to squeeze in some quality time with your children, starting tonight, is by including yourself in their bedtime routine, if you haven’t already. And, if your kids don’t quite have a bedtime routine yet, what better time to start one than right now!

A bedtime routine can be as simple as having your children get in their pj’s, brush their teeth, and then you read them a story and give them a hug and kiss goodnight.

It doesn’t have to be difficult or involve singing them a song, or anything like that. A simple routine will be enough for the both of you to feel just a little more connected.

And, the simple bedtime routine I mentioned is the one I use for my five year old. Every night it’s the same story, as well. We actually both have the book memorized. I read her My Goodnight Book, it’s the same exact book that my mom read to me before bed when I was little.

Eat Meals at the Table with Them

You may not realize it, but kids pay attention to even the smallest of things. Like, if you actually sit down at the table with them to eat breakfast or lunch (you know, instead of cleaning up from making lunch or doing something else while eating), they’ll actually notice.

You can take this ‘extra’ time with them to actually talk with them (no phones at the table).

Ask them how their day is going or what they would like to do today or tomorrow. Find out if anything is on their mind or bugging them. Or simply be with them. If they’re too small to talk then you should probably be sitting with them anyways. It’s a good habit to get into.

If the only meal you’re able to sit down at the table with them is dinner, that’s fine. Take advantage of that time. Make it fun; maybe themed dinners for each night of the week, or let them help you make dinner once a week on a certain day.

Or, if they’re old enough to make dinner themselves; assign each person in the household a night or two a week where it’s their turn to make dinner. Then everyone sits down together to enjoy it. Maybe I’m just fantasizing of what I hope for the future for my girls and family; but wouldn’t that be nice?

Put Your Phone Down

Seriously, when you are in the same room as your children, put your phone down, or in another room if you need to. You may be amazed at how much extra quality time you have to spend with your kids if you do this!

Smart phones are like the death to real social interaction, sadly, sometimes even with our children. Don’t let it happen to you. Your phone, those messages on Facebook and pictures on Instagram; they’ll still be there when your kids go down for a nap, to bed for the night, or when they go to school.

While you have the chance to be with your children; actually be with them fully. Be present, not with your face in your phone trying to see what the newest thing is or getting into drama. No one needs that in their lives. And, you’re children will thank you for spending more quality time with them!

(Even if it’s not so clear that they’re thankful; children need to be taught how to be thankful and show gratitude. How are they to learn if you spend more time with your face in your phone than showing them how to act, behave, and communicate efficiently?)

Let Them Help You

Whether it’s helping you cook, bake, or clean up; your kids will think this is great time spent with you and will love every minute of it! Especially when they’re little.

So, even if you may not think of making food or cleaning as quality time, they will. They are with you, after all! Plus, it’s teaching them some valuable lessons that they will keep with them in life, forever.

So, it’s a win-win, especially now that housework and cooking can be a shared family chore, instead of all being put on your shoulders to do.

Schedule in 10-15 Minutes a Day (Per Child)

Scheduling in quality time to play with each child by themselves will not only help you find the time to spend with them; but, it’ll also make your child feel super important. And, let’s face it, our children are super important to us, so show them they are by doing this!

Now, what you do in that 15 minutes doesn’t really matter all that much, as long as you are paying 100% of your attention to your child.

You could go for a walk, play a game, paint each others nails, have a dance party, or pretty much anything else you can think of that your child would want to do. This time is for both of you, but they’re only kids once, and doesn’t get much say in what they do for most of the day; so, let them choose what you both do, even if it’s just for 15 minutes.

Take Them Outside to Play

Or, better yet, to a playground! Just spend time outside together (away from screens indoors). It will feel much more like quality time, to both you and them!

Play tag, or simply take a walk. Or, let them run around and get all their energy out while you watch. (Make sure you have water close by.) Maybe, they’ll even take a nap afterwards!

Plan a Fun Activity For Them

This can be as simple as letting them color in coloring books. But, when I do this, I like to make it something super special. Which is usually easier done in the fall or holiday months at the end of the year.

For example, making fall wreaths out of painted puzzle pieces or ornaments for Christmas are great ideas for this! But, you could also have them do fun crafts anytime of the year. Maybe you’ll teach them how frogs or butterflies go through metamorphosis and they’ll do a craft based on that.

Or, as messy as it can be, let them paint.

My mom ran a home daycare when I was young and let the younger kids paint the deck with water. This was great in so many different ways. Lily from craftlearnandplay.com understands the many benefits this activity has, check out her post on it here.

It got the kids outside. It also let them ‘paint’ without actually leaving a mark on the deck. You could even do this with your kids to make it feel more like quality time with them.

One Day at a Time

Spending quality time with our children doesn’t have to be a challenge, or even take up too much time. Even simply putting our phones away so we can focus on our kids, instead of seeing what’s new on Facebook, will help you and your child feel more connected through out the day.

I can’t say that I’m perfect with doing each one of these things every single day, that could get exhausting to do, especially with the fun activity every single day. But, I do try my best to implement most of them.

No one’s perfect. And it’s hard to be the super mom you want to be in such a busy world, every day.

So, just take it one day, and one idea, at a time. You and your children will look back and cherish these moments forever.

…You know, the ones you spent focusing on them, not on your phone.

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 How to Reduce Stay at Home Mom Burnout (from the silent stress we feel)

As moms we have a lot of stress in our lives. We have the stress of caring for little ones, keep up our homes, dealing with bills, and much much more!

But, there are some things that we tend to stress about and feel that we can’t share our emotions about.

This isn’t good. We can’t keep hiding this stress and acting as if these things aren’t bugging us; it’s not healthy and it’s not right!

So, I’m going to bring to light what a few of these stressors are and some ways you can overcome them!

Don’t worry, you’re not alone in feeling this way; it’s something all of us stay at home moms feel once in awhile. Or, at least have felt in the past, before we overcame the fear of sharing how we truly feel!

1. Worrying You’re not Good Enough

Feeling like you’re not good enough is probably a stressor that everyone has come across before in their life; whether they want to admit it or not. But, our stress, because of our situation is slightly different from others.

We’re worried that we’re not good enough to do things that working moms do; like being able to get a job if we try, juggling a job with mom duties if we ended up working in the future. We worry that when we go out in public that if what we’re wearing is alright, or if it’s completely out of style.

Then, we have the stress of balancing the bills to make sure nothing gets missed so our electric doesn’t get shut off; cause that would be on us slipping up if it does.

We worry if the food and love we provide to our family is good enough, or if we could do better.

Is our home clean enough?

Are we disciplining our children enough? Or, too much?

Is there something we missed in all of our stay at home mom and home keeping duties?

Are we personally good enough for others to want to be around us? It gets lonely being a stay at home mom, so we can’t always tell whether people would like to be around us but are too busy, or if they are genuinely avoiding us. It’s a tough call and can cause a lot of stress, and possibly even some issues with our self confidence.

Reduce the Stress

First off, know that you’re not the only one that feels this way. If it feels like you are, then maybe you should stay off social media for a little while. Everyone puts their best out on social media to show how great they are. Not many people want to show off their flaws or insecurities, so they don’t.

Know that you’re the best mom for you children. Ignore those who tell you otherwise. You are smart, and you are enough for them, you’re enough for your husband, and you’re enough for yourself!!

Simply the fact that you’re so worried about all of these things means that you are trying to be better; and there is no one better than someone who is constantly trying to improve!!

So, go you for caring enough to better yourself!! You are awesome and unique! If other people provide you excuses for not coming around, then it’s their loss, not yours. Don’t take it too hard, they may even truly just have too full of a plate right now.

Try to relax a little when thinking you’re not good enough, because you truly are awesome!

2. Feeling judged by other Moms

There is not much that is a worse feeling than feeling judged, or looked down upon, by other moms, especially when you’re a young mom in your twenties.

It feels like a slap in the face, without actually getting slapped!

To be honest, I very much dislike the notion of women hating other women, or being mean to each other. Come on now, this isn’t high school anymore, there’s no need for that!

Personally, I haven’t really had to go through feeling judged by other moms; well, other than moms of older generations who like to butt their heads in where they don’t belong. My oldest daughter doesn’t start school til the fall. And, I’d very much appreciate not being judged by other moms of kids in my class!

Reduce the Stress

Something I want to share with you to help reduce your headache from this judgment; what someone says about someone else is usually more a reflection of themselves than of who they are speaking of. Meaning, they are judging you because they may not feel secure in their own skin.

With that thought in mind, instead of feeling judged and insecure in your own skin, take some pity on the moms judging you. Maybe they’re having a rough time right now, or they’ve been judged harshly in the past. It’s quite sad when the only joy in someones life is bringing others down.

And, it’s probably an older mom who you feel judged by, so have comfort in the fact that you are doing what she is, but at a younger age!

Maybe, instead of taking how they treat or talk to you as a sign of judgment, take it as a cry for help. See if they are struggling with something in life right now that’s causing them to act like an adolescent. Maybe even offer to grab coffee and talk. Chances are, they probably feel just as insecure as you do, or maybe even more so!

3. Always being Stuck Home with the Kids

Unfortunately, not all stresses are the same, or even feel like ‘stress’. Sometimes a stressor in our life can show up as jealousy. Say, when you husband goes out with friends on the weekend when you thought it was supposed to be ‘family time’; and you’re, yet again, stuck home with the kids as if it’s another work day for him.

And, it doesn’t matter if you have friends and would want to hang out with them; or if you don’t, you’re simply stressed because you’re always the one to stay with the kids.

He’s probably told you, as well, that he needs a break from work and just needs to relax and hang out with friends once in awhile. Which is completely reasonable; he is the one who works to make money to pay the bills. But, you’re wondering when it’s going to be your turn. When do you get to relax? When is it your turn to take a break from your job?

As moms, we truly never get a break, not really. But, we should get a chance once in awhile to hang with friends, or escape from the house for a little bit…without our kids.

Reduce the Stress

The smartest thing to do here is to COMMUNICATE with your husband about how you feel.

Let him know that it stresses you out when you’re stuck home with the kids all the time!

Be vulnerable and let him know you might be jealous that he gets a break from work and the kids, and you don’t.

Maybe work out a schedule with him where you take turns going out with friends.

Or, hire a babysitter once in awhile to go out together!!

Honestly, the best thing you can do is tell him how you feel. He is your husband after all!

4. Being a Good Wife

If we’re worried about being jealous of our husbands and never getting a break, chances are we’re probably worried about being a good wife and having mom burnout, as well.

And, by being a ‘good’ wife, I mean having enough life in us by the time our husbands come home to not want to just say ‘your turn’ and then want to go up to bed to sleep!!

Believe me, there has been times when I have wanted to do that; when I was so worn out by my girls energy that I wanted to simply greet my husband at the door when he came home….on my to go to bed to sleep.

Like, we married each other so we could be with each other, because we love each other; not so we could play ‘your turn to take care of the kids, and my time to sleep’ tag! It’s not a very fun game!

Reduce the Stress

The first step to reducing this type of stress is by getting enough sleep at night. I know this can be difficult, especially for those of us who still co-sleep with a little one. But, it is vital to get enough sleep!! It will help with so many different aspects of our lives.

Second, make sure you’re eating the right foods! Eat plenty of fruits, veggies, healthy proteins and grains! Make sure you’re drinking enough water, too. All of these things will help you keep your energy up through out the day; making it less likely to want to pass out by 5 or 6pm!

The third way you can reduce this type of stress is by exercising during the day! At first it may seem counter intuitive, and at first it will be. But, trust the process; your body will adapt! The more energy you use during the day, the more energy your body will give you to use!

And, make sure you are communicating with your husband how you feel. Maybe he could agree to cooking dinner and cleaning up once or twice during the week to give you a break. Who knows, maybe all you need to do to get some extra help is ask!!

Most Importantly Give Yourself Some Grace!!

We need to give ourselves some leeway and grace. As moms, with everyone pulling us in every direction, all the time, we shouldn’t put more pressure on ourselves to ‘do it all’ or to be everything for everyone.

Why is it that we can give grace to others so easily and let them know it’s alright if they can’t do everything; they’re only human after all. But, we can’t give that same grace to ourselves?

Take a few moments to reflect on the stressors mentioned above, and in the previous posts in this series (find links below) and other things that cause you more stress than necessary during the day.

Now, imagine putting all of that stress on someone else. How would you expect them to deal with it? Would you want them stressing out over all those things, or would you want to tell them that they can relax a little and give themselves grace because they are taking on more than any one person should handle? I’m going to assume the latter!

So, give yourself grace, and stop stressing over every little thing!!

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This is the final part of a 5 post series! Check out the first 4 parts!!

What Causes Stay at Home Mom Stress?

How to STOP Worrying about your Families Health!

5 Ways to Reduce Mom Stress for Wanting to be Yourself Again!!

4 Causes of Stress in Parents (and how to manage it)

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4 Causes of Stress in Parents (and how to manage it)

As moms, we have a lot of stress!

Sure, stress can sometimes be a good thing, especially when raising children; like, help us keep them from getting hurt, raising them to become good adults, and help them have a better future!

But, we don’t need to stress over every little thing when it comes to parenting. Children will make mistakes, just as we all do. And, we can’t protect them from everything, especially when they’re grown.

The stress and burden we carry for them as they grow doesn’t need to be as heavy as we may think, though. Our children are stronger and more resilient than we believe they are.

Sure, there’s A LOT we can stress about when raising little ones. Like preventing them from getting boo-boos and wondering if we’re teaching them enough before they start school. Hoping that our parenting style will raise them to be kind and decent human beings when they grow up, or even the stress of guiding them to become successful as adults.

It’s a lot of stress, but we don’t have to carry the weight of that stress on our own!

1. Raising Children to be good Adults

One of the biggest things we worry about as moms is whether or not our children will grow up to be good adults. By this I mean we will worry;

  • Will they be able to take care of themselves, others, and do good things in the world?
  • Will they stay out of trouble and be kind, generous, and grateful?
  • Did we provide them with the self esteem, modesty, and common sense, needed to make it in the world today?

This is one of the biggest concerns we have as good parents. One thing that we feel we have control over. And, if they turn out differently than we’d like, we may try blaming ourselves for it.

Reduce the Stress

The first thing you need to get through your head about raising children and stressing over the way in which they turn out as adults; is that you are not fully responsible!

There is a lot that goes into how a person acts and lives their lives as an adult.

You are not the only one they interact with as they grow up.

You are not the only person that has influence over their decisions.

It is not your fault if your child makes a mistake. That’s all part of growing up and learning how to live in this world.

Even from a young age children test their limits by doing what you tell them not to do. It drives us crazy sometimes when they do this; but it’s a vital part of learning how the world works and how others react to their actions. The world is ever changing, so we’re not going to be able to guide them through every decision they make in life.

We’re still making decisions as adults and possibly still testing limits and trying to figure out consequences to our actions.

So, give yourself a break; you’re not the determining factor on how your child acts and treats others as an adult. Simply guide them and help them make good decisions while you can, because someday they may not give you the chance to.

2. Worrying about Childrens Future

We all want our children to grow up and be successful, make a lot of money, and be happy when they’re adults, right?

Right?

We help them with their homework, make sure they stay in school. At times, we may stress over their grades and how they behave in school, what sports or extra curricular activities they are in.

We want them to have a bright future and some parents will do anything to ensure that their idea of a bright future for their children plays out.

Reduce the Stress

The first thing you can do to stop stressing about your childs future is to understand we can not control it.

Sometimes we may stress over our children getting into the best college there is, and stress even more about paying for their tuition so they can go.

But, why?

What if they don’t want to go to college? (GASP)

Maybe they want to pursue art or music, instead. Or, work their way up in a company and feel it’s best to start sooner rather than later, and without all the student loan debt.

What we have to realize is that we can not determine their future, or anyone’s for that matter.

If we want them to be happy so much, then we need to take a backseat sometimes and let them make their own decisions!

We need to give them space to make mistakes and learn from them.

If we plan out and do everything for them, or make a bright future for them; how is that going to make them feel?

Sometimes the less stressed we are about their future, the less unintentional pressure we’ll put on our children; the better it may become!


3. All the Dangers in the World

We stress about all the dangers in the world, for our children more so than ourselves. This isn’t just a stress we put on ourselves, though, this can sometimes simply be an extension of our maternal instincts.

We want so badly for nothing bad to ever happen to our children; so we do our best to protect and shelter them. But, sometimes we do this a little too well.

And with writing this, the only thing I can think of right now is Finding Nemo. More specifically in the beginning when Nemo’s dad promises to never let anything ever happen to him. And then later in the movie when Marlin tells this to Dory and Dory says “Well you can’t never let anything happen to him. Then nothing would ever happen to him.”

As parents, we tend to think just like Marlin! We stress over every little thing that could possibly ever happen to our kids and try to shelter them from it. We don’t want to see too much of the world too fast!

Reduce the Stress

Maybe we should take Dory’s advice!

We need to let our kids experience this world as it is. Protect them from what we can, but not obsess over what we can’t protect them from.

Instead of sheltering them from experiences we don’t want them to encounter, and ignore that anything will ever happen in their lives; maybe we should be teaching them how to be prepared for situations that could potentially come up in life.

Sure, no one wants their child to have bad grades, get fired from a job, or be treated unfairly (along with A LOT of other things that could happen in life, that I’d rather not write about). But, that doesn’t mean you don’t talk about those things with your children as if they don’t exist!

Prevent some stress and worrying in your life when it comes to potential dangers by talking with your children about them. Let them know what they should do in certain situations, or that life isn’t always fair and they need to accept that.

Explain to them that there are some bad people in this world, but that it shouldn’t stop them from living their life to the fullest! To be wary, but not to avoid the world to stay safe! That’s no way to live.

4. Having to teach Little Ones Everything

Unfortunately, and fortunately, when our children are born they don’t know very much. This leaves it up to us to teach them basically everything they need to know before they start going to school.

This can cause stress or anxiety in some moms; worrying about not being able to teach their children what they need to know by the time they believe they need to know it by.

We want our children to be smart, stay ahead of the game on developmental standards, have common sense, and be successful (for their age) before they even understand the meaning of success.

These hopes and goals for our children leave us more stressed than they need to!

Reduce the Stress

Remember all children really need in their first few years of life is to be cared for and loved!

Children are great at learning without us intentionally teaching them anything. So stop stressing if you are teaching them enough.

Think about all the times your children have learned things from you that you didn’t teach them, maybe even things you didn’t want them to learn.

The human brain is magnificent from day one! It allows our children to be clever before they even know the meaning. There’s natural instincts that help them survive right after birth; and they learn things with such ease, just as we do without even realizing it!

As long as we can be good examples, we will be teaching our children plenty before they start their formal education!

Our Children will be Fine!

There’s only so much we can do for our children before they grow up!

And, whether or not we spend bounds of time secretly stressing over every little thing, will have little impact on how they will be as adults.

We could spend hours trying to figure out how to help our children become kind and thoughtful adults; or we could simply be a good example for them and do what we would like them to do!

We could stress over their grades and save thousands of dollars for them to go to the best University; but it doesn’t mean that they’ll do any better, or even want to go to college after they graduate high school!

Even putting our children in protective, metaphorical, bubbles, won’t protect our children from some of the dangers, or let downs in life. That’s just part of life.

Like I learned from my health class in high school (yes, for some reason my brain is still allowing this memory to exist); you can only have things as good as you can have them bad. Meaning, without great sadness, you can never experience great joy. Without ever feeling great loss, you can’t realize great love. You can’t have good times, without the bad.

So, don’t prevent your children from having an amazing life of their choice because of the fear you have for them!

Guide them and care for them while you can and while they allow you to. Accept them as they are, and always make sure you show them your love!


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5 Ways to Reduce Mom Stress for Wanting to be Yourself Again!!

As moms we have a lot of stress in our lives! We worry about our family, about our home, our finances, and a lot more!

But, what about us!

We’re usually fine with admitting all of the things we stress about when it comes to pretty much anything, except when it comes to something about us!

We have mom guilt.

Which is one thing we stress about, and feel selfish if we take any time away from worrying about mom duties, to care enough to stress about ourselves and what we need.

I want you to feel alright with admitting that there are things that you want, that you should feel alright with stressing over to have. I want you to feel like it’s alright to be human and have emotions and take care of yourself.

But, then again, I want you to not have to stress over these basic things, that anyone who is not a mom has no trouble sharing with the world! Such as….

1. Getting Your Body Back

We’re stressed about getting our bodies back, in more ways than just one!!

We stress to get back in shape after having kids. To fit into our pre pregnancy clothes, so we actually have nice clothes to wear again. And, we want to feel like ourselves again.

There also comes a time when we’re silently stressed to get our bodies back to ourselves. Meaning, we carried a baby for 9 months, then breastfed for however long; we want our bodies back to ourselves.

Honestly, I’m feeling this stress myself more and more lately. My body hasn’t been mine for over 6 years, because of my two girls!! I love them to pieces, and I know nursing them til around 2 and a half years old each was beneficial to them; I just want my body back…to myself!

Reduce the Stress

First of all, understand that you’re not alone. It is perfectly normal to want to get back in shape after having a baby. In fact, people expect you to want this and expect it to be a priority for you. There are even specific workout dvd’s dedicated to postpartum fitness!

So, go ahead, take 30 to 60 minutes out of each day and exercise. It’ll help you get your body back faster and help reduce your stress. Even if it’s simply chasing after your kids at the park for a half hour!

If you want to get your body back to yourself, make sure you aren’t trying to do it alone. Talk to your husband, or someone else who helps support you, let them know how you feel. Set boundaries for your children; for example, tell them that they are not to open the bathroom door when you’re in there.

It may be hardest for us moms who are nursing. We want to make sure we provide the best we can for our infants and toddlers; but then again, we want to wear bras that aren’t nursing bras!

Try setting an age in which you start to wean your child, and a rough age in which you would like them to be completely weaned. Tell your husband about these goals, as well. I don’t know how I would’ve been able to wean my first daughter without the help of my husband! He would help get her to sleep at night; if I was the one getting her to sleep all she wanted to do was nurse.

2. Not having enough Time

There is never enough time to get everything done, and if you’re a mom, you understand that!

Being a stay at home mom, it’s even worse. People assume that because we don’t work, that we have all the time in the world to do anything we want.

They have no idea how wrong they are!!

It’s saddening, really, to have one of the hardest jobs out there, and be treated as if we just get to lounge around all day, doing whatever is we want to do. How far from the truth is that?

Yeah…because I totally want to be watching Sofia the First while I nurse my toddler to sleep, because otherwise she won’t take a nap. And, I so enjoy changing dirty diapers (attempting to potty train), and being responsible for everything that little humans will learn for their first 4 or so years on this planet. Yep…not stressful at all. I can totally do the 500 other tasks that someone wants me to do, as well; because, hey, I’ve got all the time in the world, right?

The fact that people think that’s true is irritating and can cause stress all in itself!

Reduce the Stress

My favorite thing to do to reduce the stress of never having enough time in the day is to plan!!

I used to buy those cheap planners from walmart after all the school supplies go on clearance; but, this year, I invested in a planner that has helped me so much more than just planning out what needs to get done in a day!!

And, yes, planning does take time itself, but it is so worth it! It’ll certainly reduce your stress! By allowing you to see what you have time for and what you don’t. It forces you to prioritize if you have too many commitments, and shows you where you may have missed some down time!

Understand that not everyone gets that just because you don’t have a set schedule, doesn’t mean you have ‘all the time in the world’ to do what you want. Sometimes, not having a set schedule as a stay at home mom makes it even harder!


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3. Craving Time for Yourself

Oh, and heaven forbid we want any time, at all, to ourselves!

Let’s get real here for a moment with the stress us moms go through; I can’t even go to the bathroom myself! The second I go in there, one of my girls needs to tell me something, or needs me. I honestly have a hard time getting away from them. And, I know I’m not the only mom to feel that way!

So, the ‘me time’ that everyone raves is so amazing because they get to read, relax, go shopping (and enjoy it), or whatever else they get to do. For me, this ‘me time’ everyone speaks of, is taking a long shower and hoping my girls will sit still, watch a show, and not try to talk to me while I’m in there (never happens, though).

I get so stressed and overwhelmed when I don’t get any time to myself, that I have resorted to getting up at 3am!

Yes, three in the morning, to simply write and drink my coffee in silence! That is my time to myself, and sometimes I’m so exhausted from the day before that I sleep in. You know, sleep in til 4am (the time I need to make sure my husband is up for work by).

That is how hard it can be to get some alone time as a stay at home mom!

Reduce the Stress

Pretty much the only way to reduce the stress of needing that time to yourself, is by getting some time to yourself. If you’re an extrovert, than you may not feel that strong craving of needing to be alone once in awhile. But, I sure can tell you how strong the craving is for us as introverts!!

One way to get some time to yourself could be by communicating with your husband that he needs to watch the kids so you can finally take a real break, even if it’s just for 10 or so minutes.

Or, you could always ask a relative or friend to watch the kids for a little bit for you, so you can get your sanity back!

If you’re stubborn and won’t ask for help, then I’d recommend you read How to Find Me Time as a Stay at Home Mom (when you’re stubborn and won’t ask for help). This post will give you five more ways to find time to yourself during the day!

4. Plain Old Mom Guilt

One of the most stressful things us moms goes through is simply feeling guilty that we aren’t spending enough time with our children, or doing enough for them!

That’s probably why we can’t get any alone time! The stress from mom guilt is stronger than our craving for ‘me time’. We feel guilty if we spend any time away from our kids for any reason, whatsoever! And then, we feel guilty if we even think about having any time to ourselves.

No wonder we’re so stressed!! We get stressed when even thinking about ways we can de stress because it would take time away from our children…even though we already spend every minute of every day with them!

Reduce the Stress

First, understand that you’re not alone in this struggle!

Second, set some boundaries for yourself and your kids! Just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean that you’re not your own person anymore!

It’s alright if you want to leave your kids at a friends while you go get groceries by yourself. And, it’s alright if you’re the one who has to work so the bills get paid. Those things are just a part of life.

You shouldn’t feel guilty for trying to provide for you family, or get a little peace and quiet to stay sane once in awhile! I know, I’m probably a hypocrite for saying it, because I have mom guilt, too. It’s a struggle, and I don’t know if we’ll ever not have it.

Just know that you are not alone!

5. Not Being Heard

Another tough thing about being just a stay at home mom, is that we aren’t heard as well. It takes a lot of effort for us to get anyone to listen to us, especially our kids. Although, maybe it’s just that kids don’t like listening to their moms in general.

It is super stressful when I tell my older daughter to do something and she completely ignores that I said anything! But, it’s even more frustrating when my husband tells her to do the exact same thing, and she goes and does it immediately!!

Sometimes we may wonder if sound is even coming out of our mouths when we speak.

Or, maybe it’s just me. Because I know I’m quiet.

And, it’s not just our children not listening to us; it could be anyone! Our husbands, other family members, friends, that random call center rep on the other end of the phone. It’s like ‘ do you even hear what I’m saying!!’

Reduce the Stress

Try not to yell. Yes, counter intuitive, but it can prove effective! When you yell, others won’t respond to what you’re saying, but how you say it!

Or, if you’re having trouble getting someone to listen to you because they’re on their phone or watching tv; if you feel comfortable with getting between them and the device, do so! If it’s your children, take the phone, tablet, or turn off the tv to get them to notice and listen to you.

Also, let others know, when they aren’t distracted, how you feel when they don’t listen to you, or completely ignore you. Not the call center rep, obviously (just hang up and try again, you’ll eventually find someone who’ll listen, I used to work in call centers and I have a psychology degree); but people in your life all the time.

If they can understand how it makes you feel, then maybe they’ll start listening; or maybe they won’t, but you won’t know unless you try. And, at least if you try, you’ll no longer have to stress wondering about it!

True, it’s not all about you, but…

Stressing for your own health and body back is part of being a mom. So is having mom guilt; completely normal. But, you don’t have to go through these struggles alone. Tell others how you feel, find a support network or rely on your friends and family for comfort to help reduce some of the stress!

Communicate how you feel to your husband and other people in your life. If you’re an introvert, let them know you would like some help with the kids once in awhile; so you can reflect on your life or have some time to yourself to preserve your sanity!

Let others know what your day to day life looks like. Go ahead and write down what you did in a day, and then if someone assumes you can do something because you have all the time in the world show them how wrong they are. You have the right to use your ‘free’ time, any that you can possibly find that is, to do with what you want. Life can get chaotic as a stay at home mom, and not many people understand that; so let it be known!

And, if you only take one thing away from reading this; know that you are not alone in this stay at home mom life, I’m right there with you! (Along with almost every other stay at home mom out there!)

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This is the third part of a 5 post series! Check out the first 2 parts!!

What Causes Stay at Home Mom STRESS?

How to Worrying Stressing about your Families Health!

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How to Stop Worrying About Your Family’s Health

As stay at home moms, we have a lot of stress in our lives!

From feeling the need to remember everything to ensuring our children, husband, and ourselves eat healthy meals and stay active! It’s a burden we have to carry because we’re the caretakers of our families. And, let’s face it, no one else in our family really cares!

But, we do! We feel it’s our responsibility to make sure our kids grow up healthy and strong, to become healthy and active adults and avoid diet related chronic illness. We also take it upon ourselves to ensure our husbands eat right; because without us they’d probably be eating fast food for dinner every night!

And, then comes our own health! You see that, how I’m writing about our health last. This is what us moms tend to do; always putting ourselves last. When, in fact we should be putting ourselves first so we can better ensure everyone’s elses health, with the energy to do so!

But, let’s dive into what exactly stress us out about keeping our family healthy; and more importantly, how to reduce the stress!

1. Health through Food

As moms, we are responsible for all the food our family eats. We also want to make sure the food they eat is good for them; that it’ll help our children grow up healthy and strong, and help us adults not gain too much weight, either! And prevent diet induced chronic illnesses, that can be prevented by having a healthy diet.

We stress about making the ‘perfect’ meal plan, or at least one that is ‘good enough’. Then we have to do the shopping, cook, and clean up after everyone after meals. And, this is a never ending cycle because everyone has to eat….and at least 3 times a day.

Plus, the more we know about nutrition and how food effects our minds and bodies; the more stressed we get about it!

Reduce the Stress

Obviously, it’s important to eat healthy, but we don’t have to stress over every little detail!

Let’s start simple; there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ meal plan, so get that fantasy out of your head right now!

And, yes, it is important to meal plan, but this is to help you reduce stress, not cause more. If it makes you feel better, just create a loose meal plan. Write down a meal for all meals of the week, repeats are fine if you know you’ll have leftovers. Don’t forget about snacks! Then see if you can have someone watch the kids for you while you grocery shop alone. Meal prep that day, or the next so your meals are already to simply heat up and serve! Then, if you or someone else doesn’t feel like having what’s planned, just find another meal on the plan and swap them. Easy as that!!

Keep a running list of meals everyone likes so you won’t have to pull teeth every time you need an idea for a meal. Maybe even place it on the fridge and tell people to add to it when they come up with a meal idea. This way, you don’t have to do everything, from coming up with ideas to making them!

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2. Health through Exercise

Again, we want ourselves and our children to be healthy and strong. Other than food, exercise will help us be healthy, and gain strength.

So, to add to our long lists of things to do everyday; we also stress about making sure our kids get enough exercise everyday. Whether it means we take them to the park, let them just run around outdoors, or come up with a fun game for them to play indoors during the cold months of winter.

Some days it may feel like too much, on top of everything else. This takes up time. It’s a good use of our time, but as moms, our time is very limited. So, anything that takes up an hour or so of our time will ultimately stress us out!

Reduce the Stress

Luckily, a great way for us to reduce the stress is by getting exercise with them! Chase them around the park, play tag, have a dance party; just join in on their fun! They’ll love it even more and get to have more mommy fun time. And, you’ll reduce your stress through the hormones that are released during exercise! It’s a win all around!

Other than exercising with them, think about whether you’d like to create healthy habits in your kids to be active; or, if you’d like to instill the habit of simply being a couch potato. Whatever you choose to have them do will influence how they feel about exercise in the future, when they’re adults!

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to raise couch potatoes!

3. Emotional, or Mental, Health

And, who can forget about mental health when stressing out over an entire families well-being?

This type of health can actually cause the most stress, especially if you have a loved one dealing with a mental illness, such as depression, anxiety, or something else. And, even if you don’t, you still stress about your families happiness and well-being when it comes to how they feel.

You don’t want your child to be picked on at school, or feel socially awkward. And, you don’t want your husband feeling like you put the children before him. This type of stress can be hard to handle and reduce. Not as hard to reduce as if dealing with an actual mental illness in the family; but still challenging enough that many of us stress over it and may think there’s no way to overcome the stress!

Reduce the Stress

If there is a mental illness in the family, the best thing to do to help reduce the stress is for them to see a mental health professional. To further help, there are support groups for family members affected by a mental illness. (Unfortunately, I may not live in your area and you will have to look these up yourself or find out by asking around your community.)

If you don’t have a mental illness in your family, and your stressing about normal emotional stability and feelings your family has; talk about. The best thing you can do to strengthen the emotional, or mental, health of your family is by communicating with them. Let them know they can talk to you about anything; that you’ll be there for them.

Reassure your family that you will always be there for them, for the happy times and through the difficult. You’ve got their back, just let them know!

Yes, Health is important, but so is your Sanity

As moms, our family generally comes before anything else in our lives, even our health. But, that’s a backwards way to think. We need to be physically and mentally healthy to best care for the rest of our family to fullest of our abilities.

So, there is a lot that we can stress about when it comes to keeping our families healthy. But, there are also ways to reduce it. Prepare for the week ahead, make plans, and adjust accordingly. Get in exercise to help stay active, reduce stress, and strengthen our mental health. And, remember to always communicate and accept your family as they are!

You don’t have to give up your sanity to keep your families in tack. Start with yourself and keeping everyone else healthy will become so much easier!

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This is the second part of a 5 post series! Check out the first part

This is why Stay at Home Moms are always STRESSED!!

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