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5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Have Messy House Guilt
Have you ever had just one of those days; you know, where your patience with your children is truly tested?
When it feels like every time you blink, there’s another mess to clean up or child who needs your undivided attention.
And, don’t you dare turn your back, not even for a second, or your children will start wrestling over a toy. (I have girls, and they do this.)
Forget about even doing the basic chores you attempt to get done everyday, like dishes and laundry, there’s boo-boo’s to kiss and putting the toddler down for a nap to attempt. HAHA…..nope, no nap today.
Yep, this stay at home mom gig isn’t the easiest thing in the world. There’s ‘those’ days. Nothing get’s done, and the house looks like a tornado went through it.
But, guess what?
These days will happen, and because you’re a mom, you’ll get through them. Hopefully they won’t come too often, but we’ve got this. And, here are 5 reasons why I’m thankful for days like these and why you shouldn’t feel guilty about a messy house.
1. Your Children are Fed and Alive
Your kids are alive and fed, well, mostly fed…..
Some of the food is over there on the floor…..
some may be on the wall across the room……
and there might be some peanut butter on the curtains…*cringe*.
But, the kids aren’t acting like they’re hungry, so, good enough.
If you manage to simply get some food into your children on days like these, then you’ve pretty much mastered motherhood.
And, you can’t get the kids fed without having to cook, or at least having some messy dishes in the kitchen. So, don’t mind the mess, be thankful they got to eat!
2. Unconditional Love
Sure, they may not show it, but they do love you. Even when they’re yelling at the top of their lungs that they hate you and want to be alone, or for you to leave them alone; they still love you.
Eventually, the strong feelings they are experiencing will fade and they’ll melt. (That’s what my five year old and I call it when this happens and she comes back to me for hugs, kisses, to apologize to me, and tell me how much she loves me.)
Sometimes, on days like ‘these’ where your patience is being tested; it’s better to value some quality time with your kids, than playing the perfect house keeper.
They need you, and you know it’s good for both your’s and your children’s sanity to just sit in their room and play with them. Even if it means the house stays a disaster for little longer.
So, don’t feel guilty about a messy house.
3. Early Bedtime, Anyone?
Yes, on days like ‘these’, where everything seems to be going wrong, you can’t keep up with your home, and your children are hanging all over you (or fighting behind your back); an early bedtime is a likely (well-deserved) ending.
Your toddler didn’t nap; your older child wouldn’t leave them alone long enough to let them fall asleep. Your older child got up too early and starting to get cranky. You somehow managed to get your kids clean and in pj’s by 6:15pm and by 6:30pm the little one is out and 15 minutes later the older one is being asked to get tucked in to bed.
(Wait a minute, that’s my queue to go tuck her in….)
But, not all of ‘these’ days will end with a well-deserved early bedtime for the kids.
Nope, some of ‘these’ days won’t end til the morning and we’ll be pulling out our hair (if there’s any left after the kids got to it).
And, with our luck, it’ll probably be just one child keeping us up all night, and by the time they finally pass out and the morning comes; the other one will be up and ready to take on the day….
This is when you’ll be hoping Starbucks delivers. (Unfortunately, as far as I know, they don’t.)
4. The TV Stayed Off All Day
On days like ‘these’, where you can’t even hear yourself think and there’s toys everywhere (like those legos you’re just about to step on…watch out); be thankful!
A messy house, with toys sprawled all through out, means that your children didn’t spend the day acting like zombies in front of the tv. No flashing bright colors of kids shows shining in their eyes.
Instead, their eyes are shining with excitement for their next imaginative adventure!
You know all their toys, the ones EVERYWHERE, well, be glad that they’re being played with! So many kids now-a-days have toys that never get played with because they’re too busy with screens in their faces.
(By the way, my daughter apparently opened up a cupcake shop in her room; the ‘cupcakes’ are balls from a ball pit and it’s open 24/7. They’re also vegan for her mommy!)
So, don’t feel guilty about a messy house.
5. You’re Creating Memories and a Better Future
Whether it’s teaching your children to talk, build with blocks, writing their own stories, or teaching them math; you’re helping them form fond memories that they’ll hold onto forever. You’re teaching them a skill that they’ll use for the rest of their lives.
You’re making an impact in their life; not because your kitchen is spotless, but because you’re spending your time with them, instead.
Or, maybe you went back to school to get a better job, so that they can start going to a dance or karate class.
Maybe you’re starting your own business; to earn a little more to pay off the student debt you racked up before your kids were born.
Yes, even us stay at home moms get too busy with our work to keep a house spotless. Being a stay at home mom does not mean our time is unlimited, or that we can’t make money to better our childrens lives. We have a lot on our plates, and on ‘these’ days, having a messy house is perfectly alright.
Did your mom feel guilty about a messy house?
Can you remember back to when you were a child? Did your mom ever feel guilty about a messy home? Should they have?
I know my mom should never have felt guilty about a messy house. She ran a home daycare and at times there were 10 kids there, 3 to 4 toddlers at a time….
She even had a quote hanging on a small plaque in the hallway that said “Apology. Although you’ll find our house a mess. Come in- sit down- converse. It doesn’t always look like this: Some days it’s even worse.”
Remember that you have gone through days like ‘these’ and that a messy house is a blessing of being a good mom and having children who love and rely on you.
Never feel guilty about a messy house.
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